Girl Meets Financial Freedom

We make a lot of justifications to defend our actions when we are working to reform ourselves and our habits. "This is the last time" or "I will eat unhealthy tonight and will start eating healthy tomorrow" or "I will never drink alcohol again....after this time" or "I will start saving money after I buy these Chanel slingback block heels that are never available in my size that I can finance for 8 months and have in my possession within 3-5 business days (pending any inclement weather"... I'm betting you can guess which of those statements I struggled with last night. LOL, but not really.  I'm not proud of my purchase. I will wear them a lot and am forced to keep them for life, but I am not proud. What is the point of a purchase like that if you can't afford it? Why do those things still matter to me? WHAT AM I STILL MISSING IN MY LIFE? I know and have awareness of a couple of key factors in this situation that will end up helping me...

 People are always talking about self-worth. It seems that these days, as social media takes over the lives of most (and companies prey shamelessly on them), people can't seem to figure out which way to go when it comes to defining how much they value themselves. Think about it, what do you really value and how does that define who you are, boundaries that you set and of course, how you choose to save or to spend your money?  We have been conditioned to believe that when we are feeling down or not feeling "good enough" that the only way to fix it is to spend money on something. An example: A 21 year old girl goes to a party. She is interested in a man there and they have been talking for a while. She sees him kissing someone else. She is heartbroken. She was so sure that this was her guy - she starts wondering "why?" and "what did she do wrong?" or "what is wrong with me?" She goes online and googles "how to become more attractive to men...